Purpose Detox: The Reason Why You’re Busy and Still Unhappy

Hello Beautiful Ones,

So this morning was so funny on Periscope when we did our Day 9 of  the Purpose Detox. I woke up late, my tripod wouldn’t stay still, my computer died and so our song didn’t play and so on….that sounds like a terrible morning and start to Periscope right? I was tempted to think so and start the scope all over but I didn’t–I pushed past the paralysis of perfection and rocked out anyway! Here’s a free tidbit for you–stop waiting to do everything perfect before you pursue your dreams and your purpose.

So here’s four reasons you are busy and still unhappy. First let me explain what I mean by being busy: a long to do list just so you can feel important or accomplished but you really never get anything done and being tired at the end of the day with no real results–

You may being doing this because:

  1. You’re chasing the dollar dollar bills
  2. You’re trying to be social media famous
  3. You’re copying somebody else’s dream
  4. You’re living up to other people’s expectations

If you’re busy for any of those reasons STOP IT. We want things on our to-do list that are connected to our Purpose. Stop and ask yourself WHY you’re doing the things you’re doing. It may not be one of the reasons in my list–if you find more put it in the comments for me.

I love y’all!

Purpose Detox: It’s Not Impossible

Hey beautiful souls!

I hope you’ve been joining me on Periscope @ycoach for our 40 Purpose Detox!

Today we’re talking about the thought that our purpose is “too hard”, “too difficult”, “too much work”, “not in enough time” to fulfill our purposes. All of those thoughts boil down to us really thinking that it’s impossible to really do the thing that’s deep down in our hearts. It paralyzes us, because the world impossible basically means “don’t even try it!”

Now you know this is a detox so every thought in the previous paragraph is completely ridiculous. There is nothing that is impossible for God, which means nothing’s impossible for  you either. Why would God put a dream in your heart that you can never have? That would be so incredible sadistic and mean of Him. And He’s not a mean God.  He’s not out here dangling a carrot in your face to frustrate you.

If the dream is in your heart it’s because you and God are very much able to do it!

So it may have been easier to dream and sit back looking at something you can never have, but right now because I’ve just told you that you can have it–you now have to rise up and become the person who can handle that BIG dream. You and I can’t sit on the sidelines paralyzed anymore because if the dream really is possible that means we need to get to work.

No more copping out because it’s too hard. Roll up your sleeves and get to work!

Love you beautiful ones!

Purpose Detox Series: Get Rid of Inadequacy

Hey there!

If you haven’t already joined us on our Purpose Detox journey on Periscope make sure you log in 7:30am MST–Monday to Friday!

Okay so let’s talk about exactly what inadequacy is. It literally means feeling of being insufficient for a purpose–wow! A lot of us know exactly why  God put us on this Earth but we feel like we’re not enough. We have a lot of help with this, we have people in our lives that are constantly putting us down, pointing out our faults and basically making us feel like we’re failing at life. BUT THAT’S A LIE. YOU ARE NOT FAILING AT LIFE.

The purpose, the divine design of who you are and why you are on this earth is amazing. Everything about you has been perfectly put together for the purpose God  called you to. There is no extra thing you need to go get that can make you more perfect for what God has called you to. Now that’s not to say you don’t need to mature in your strengths–but they’re already your strengths. God isn’t focusing on your weaknesses–He already made your weaknesses somebody else’s strength so we can compliment each other.

Everything that you absolutely love to do and would pay someone to let you do are the exact things you need to fulfill your purpose. They’re already your strengths. They’re already your desires. You are enough for exactly what God called you to do!

Love you fierce one!

Purpose Detox: Comparison Paralysis

Hey y’all!

Okay, so if you’ve been joining me on Periscope you know that we are on Day 4 of our Purpose Detox! Read the previous blog to find out what the process of the Purpose Detox. We are cleaning out our souls from all the negative thoughts and beliefs that is keeping us from living a life of purpose and of our dreams. We should be getting up out of bed every morning excited to live! If you’re not there make sure you join us on Periscope to do this thang!

Ok now, lets talk about Comparison Paralysis. Basically stop comparing yourself to everybody else, but not just yourself but your purpose. What we do is if God has put a desire in our heart, for example being an actor, we look at all the great actors and think “I could never do that like they do it, they’re just soo good,” or we God calls us to teach and we say, “but teachers are so boring I don’t want to be boring.” lol

Here’s the truth, if God was able to gave each of the billions of people that have lived and currently live on this Earth a unique fingerprint–He can certainly give each and every one of us a unique calling that looks like nobody else. Nobody else can do what God’s called you to like you can. This is what He always tells me, “No eye has seen and no ear has heard what I’ve called you to do.” Which means, I can’t look around me to find the blueprint of what God has called me to do–I can learn principles but I will only find that unique blueprint in God. So STOP COMPARING YOUR PURPOSE TO ANOTHER PERSON’S PURPOSE.

Something I didn’t mention in the post is that we often have “purpose-envy” we wish we were called to do something else. Stop that too! Trust me the happiest, most fulfilled place you can be is in the purpose God has called YOU to.

Love you beloved,

Go rock the World!

Purpose Detox

Hey there!

Are you looking around wondering why everybody else seems so happy and you’re just sitting there thinking what about me? It seems like everyone is getting it together but you’re stuck and bored. You’re just going to a job that you hate, you don’t really enjoy the relationships with your friends and family, and the highlight of your week is your day off. Been there done that!!

How do you get out of that cycle? You discover the reason you were born. It’s a discovery because it’s already IN YOU! Nobody has the key to it and has it locked up. It’s right up in that beautiful heart of yours.

Join me on Periscope at @ycoach and let’s detox from all the toxins in our souls so we can finally start living the life we were born to live. Living your purpose is that only thing that will rescue you from the hamster wheel you’re on right now. Time to get off and walk your path!

Love you beloved. Kisses!

Is he the ONE?: My Personal Story

This topic NEVER gets old. Lol

I just did a live chat on our Facebook group, “Real Women, Real Conversations,” and the response has been amazing. I shared from Dr. Creflo Dollar’s book, Winning in Troubled Times, several questions he tells you to have answers to before you say yes to marrying your mate.

I wanted to share my personal story with you. I’ve been single for about 6 years now and it has not been a quiet 6 years. J I’ve had many false alarms; many Ishmaels have come my way. Lol Some of them I’ve willingly let in because I was bored and a couple of them where I was totally convinced that they were the ONE. I am still single, so I was wrong about all of those men, but I learned a really amazing lesson along the way and I think it’ll bless you to hear it.

I used to think the only criteria I should be looking for was for him to be a Christian. Then I realized there were a lot of Christian men, so I upgraded it to a Spirit-filled Christian, then I realized there were many of those, so I upgraded and added that they must hear God. Then I realized that just because they hear God doesn’t mean they follow Him. Then I added he must know the Word of God, then I met a man who had all of these things BUT he did not share the vision I knew was in my heart from God. Then I met someone who had all those things but guess what—I HAD NO LASTING PEACE ABOUT HIM.

This guy had everything I had prayed for. He was a godly man, a spiritual powerhouse, soo prophetic but something was just missing. I wasn’t super attracted to him—I mean he was okay but I was really attracted to his spirit. I’ve never had that before and it was really amazing. He wasn’t perfect, but I felt this supernatural pull toward him that made me think maybe it was God pulling us together, almost like this current that I couldn’t resist. We started talking about getting married and I was in agreement—even though I knew something was off I kept going. Started planning the wedding and everything. I’m talking families were involved—the WHOLE thing. But SOMETHING WAS OFF.

God had been so specific with me about my spouse, about what we would be doing and I did not see everything in this man that God had shown me. I was very honest with him. I told him my reservations and he had all these amazing spiritual answers that made me think maybe I was just being immature. Then I started to question the things God had shown me, I started to think maybe I didn’t hear him. AND THEN on top of all of that people started giving my prophetic words that he was my husband. I was so confused. Except for a close sister of mine, she was my prayer partner and we would storm the spiritual realm together on the regular—she was a prophetic prayer warrior and I had her go IN for me and she let me know that this was not it, but that God was letting me choose.

So one night I sat on the edge of my bed (all my best conversations with the Lord seem to happen on the edge of my bed lol) I cried out to the Lord. I laid everything down before Him and told Him that if this was His plan for me I would not resist Him but I needed Him to be crystal clear with me and show me. In the meantime, I shared with this man that my heart was not completely at rest in this relationship and I needed to have alone time with the Lord. I learned from previous relationships that the best way to hear from God about a relationship is to put some space between the two of you and seek the Lord separately. So we did that. He was completely convinced I was his wife so I don’t think he really sought God all that hard, BUT I DID. And you know what—it was my choice. At the end of the day God showed me if I wanted him I could have him. I could choose to be with him, OR I could wait for what He had shown me. It was my choice. I HATE WHEN GOD DOES THAT. I knew my destiny was at stake. It was a decision I knew would drastically change the outcome and direction of my life. I hate those kinds of choice. But at the end of the day—obviously I’m still single—I chose to wait on what GOD had shown me.

[tweetthis]Nobody else can tell you what to do in a relationship.[/tweetthis]Nobody else can tell you what to do in a relationship. It’s your choice. You HAVE to HEAR FROM GOD for YOURSELF. My relationship with God is so important to me, it’s the best thing that has ever happened to me. He’s been so amazingly good to me that I just cannot stop short of His goodness now. I have to see it all the way to the end. There’s a plan for my life—God has a plan and I want to live that plan because I’m convinced that it’s the most beautiful and perfect plan for MY life. At the end of it all—it boiled down to purpose. There’s a specific reason I was born and there is a way God has planned for me to get there—I can take detours; I can abort the mission if I choose to. But that’s not like me—I’m ALL IN!

I knew God would heal his heart concerning me and He did. It didn’t happen immediately after we shifted our relationship from fiance to friend. That gentleman and I are now real friends—we developed a real closeness in that time that is beyond natural understanding. In the midst of all of this, he told me that maybe his purpose in my life was to prepare me for my husband and to speed up the time, because I needed to grow and mature in some crucial areas. I know I did the same thing for him, because he learned some real important lessons about women form me. I know his wife will thank me someday, lol. We pray for each other spouses and it’s just amazing.

So that’s my story—I have many other stories about my single journey. Maybe I’ll do a series J. Because I have the Ishmael, I have the DEFINITELY NO guy who was just too cute and fun to let go, I have the sleezy church guy who had a whole family I didn’t even know about hahaha—

You are so loved. The Lord will lead you if you tune your ear to ONLY Him.