Do this One Thing When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed


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So we all know that no one is exempt from feeling overwhelmed. Some of us are chronic sufferers of this and can’t seem to find our way out of it. I know for me I deal with this a lot because I tend to be a bit of a control freak. I want to make all the right decisions right now so that I make sure I only have good things happen in the future. I try to think of all the different ways my decisions can effect my life and I try to find the ONE perfect decision that will make my life problem free! Can you relate?

I know I’m not the only one. That is exactly why we get overwhelmed. We get too busy on the inside trying to avoid problems, pain, hurt, disappointment and whatever else we deem to be negative. We overthink everything, we overanalyze EVERYTHING! No wonder we get tired and start feeling overwhelmed.

The ONE thing we need to do when we get overwhelmed is to GO BACK TO THE BASICS. Matthew 6:33 says seek ye first the kingdom of God and all of these things will be added unto you. #1 God is basically saying “drop everything and look at Me”. Literally–He’s erasing your entire t0-do list and writing His name at the top! So how do we do that practically? You do all the things you were doing when you first met Him and fell in love. Read your Bible, sing to God, talk to Him in prayer–simplify! The amazing thing is that the reason you’re overwhelmed is because you’ve decided that you were God and started doing His job for Him by trying to run your own life. What Matthew 6:33 is saying to you is stop doing God’s job–let Him be God and stay in your lane!

That’s it. Love you.

In process,


Purpose Detox: Silencing the Haters

Hey there reader!

Doesn’t it appear that everyone has haters these days–which means there must be somebody out there who considers us their “hater”—just a thought…now unto the blog.

A lot of us think that a hater is someone who is crass and in your face telling you, “You can’t do that!”, “No one will buy that from you!”, or “You are going to fail!” That is not the type of haters most of us deal with on a daily basis. The haters we deal with are much more subtle than that.

Subtle hate looks like someone suggesting that MAYBE you should try something else. Or say MAYBE you should look at the other people who attempted what you attempted the same thing failed. Or the Christian version where they’ll say, “I don’t really sense that’s what God has called you to.” Oh thanks…I didn’t know the conversation I had with God was a three way conversation with you, me and Him. It wasn’t, but thanks. (This is not to say that you can’t have people who counsel you that you’ve trusted with guidance for your life.)

Another type of hater is the people who have tried to do what we are attempting and THEY have FAILED so they are jaded, bitter and mad at the world. So it would make no sense for you to sit under that type of counsel, because they’re against anyone thinking they can succeed where they’ve failed. For example, if you’re single and wanting to be married you are NOT going to sit and talk to someone who’s been divorced and now thinks marriage is from the pit of hell. You’re just not.


#1: Stop listening to people who think that you should be doing everything else other than what God has called YOU too. Those people who think you should play it safe and stop being so radical or intense. That’s their issue not yours!

2: Get advice from successful people in the area you’re seeking counsel on. Do not sit in the counsel of bitter people who have considered failure their new identity.

Stay positive beautiful–you will make it.

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How to Tell Him No!

Ladies, I know that this can sometimes be the hardest thing to do when we are attracted to a man. We feel like saying no will communicate to him that we aren’t really interested and then he’ll leave us and never talk to us again. We think that saying yes makes us more attractive and so because we want to be liked so bad that we say yes to everything.

We say yes to coming over late, we say yes to staying on the phone past our bed time, we say yes to watching movies that we hate, hanging out with his obnoxious friends and the list goes on.

Here’s the truth: [tweetthis]Saying YES to him many times means saying NO to God.[/tweetthis]

There really is no middle ground. The fact that you would rather say no but you say yes so he can like you should tell you that you are living for his approval more than God’s approval. Every time we give in to that peer pressure we are telling God that His opinion doesn’t really matter and we can run our own lives. We’re  basically giving God “the hand.”

So how do you say NO? Say YES to God. Say yes to God’s crazy amazing love for you. Say yes to God’s awesome plan for your life. And say yes to God’s opinion of you. He thinks you’re pretty amazing! Believe that beautiful queen!!!



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Alone for the Holidays?

This time of year is either an extremely joyful time or it’s extremely depressing time for you. If you have great family relationships or friends you are probably super excited to hang out with them and take some days off just kicking back and enjoying life. If you are someone who has damaged relationships with friends and family, this time of year is extremely sad and lonely. I want to help you.

My heart and motivation for everything I do is to tell people about how amazing and beautiful they are, especially women and share the freedom that we have in our relationship with God. That’s what I want to share with you today.

Whether you know God personally or not this is still going to apply to you. No one on Earth was made to be alone, that’s number 1.

#1 So ITS OKAY to want to be around people who love and affirm your existence on this planet. This world can be really jacked up and hard to live in. We need people around us—whether they are blood related or not—who are in our corner.

#2 If you do not have people like this in your corner—it’s time to start being YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER! Treat yourself, pamper yourself, take yourself out—I know that sounds super weird but loving yourself is the foundation of all your other relationships. I used to do this—and I still do—love on myself by treating myself to a shopping spree at the dollar store. I was super broke in those days and I hated that I couldn’t buy nice things but I decided not to let that hold me back so I would save 20 dollars and just go crazy in the dollar store. It was so much fun!

I love to read too so I would go on dates with Jesus and take a book to my favorite park and even to dinner by myself. HAHAHA I know you’re probably thinking “oh my goodness that sounds like a nightmare!” But it really wasn’t. I’m so thankful for those days because if I didn’t have them I would not be the strong amazing woman that I am today. And yes I said that, and yes I believe that and no I don’t think it’s arrogant. It took time to build this confidence.

So during this holiday season don’t spend time focusing on how lonely you are or how sad you are—focus on enjoying your own company. Focus on being thankful that you made it another year and you’re not in the hospital, in an asylum somewhere, or on the streets.

#3 You’ve heard it a thousand times—go help someone else who may be lonely or sad. It is a powerful experience to step outside of your amazing little world and go share that cheer with another human soul. Somebody needs what you have, even if all you have is a smile.

You rock,



How to Follow Your Inner Voice

This entire month of November we are going to be talking about our intuition on the Facebook page, Twitter, Instagram, in the Facebook group and on this blog.

Intuition is our inner voice. Intuition is our first reaction. Intuition is that gut feeling you get immediately in different life situations. We all have it. We all have experience either ignoring that inner voice or following it and letting it lead us. We know that every time we have ignored that inner voice we have gotten ourselves in trouble. So why do we keep ignoring it?

I shared in the Facebook group, Real Women/Real Conversations, about a recent situation in my life where I completely ignored my inner voice and ended up costing myself a lot of unnecessary headache. Failing to follow my inner voice cost me emotional, mental, and spiritual energy I could’ve used somewhere else. It even cost me financially, but God is faithful to redeem us from situations we get ourselves in when we ignore Him.

So as a Christian, that inner voice is the Holy Spirit. It is actually God leading and guiding you. The Bible says “and when you turn to the right hand, and when you turn to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way. Walk in it.” Isaiah 30:21 [tweetthis]God is actually with you every day in every moment trying to lead you to victory.[/tweetthis] He is actually talking to us and telling us which way to go to avoid trouble. So why don’t we follow Him?

#1 We don’t trust the voice we hear. We think it’s just us either being too positive or too negative. We think maybe it’s the voice of our parents or some other authority figure in our head. We think maybe it’s the pizza from the night before talking. We pretty much believe it’s everyone and everything else OTHER than God.

There’s only one way to fix that. You have to just trust the voice and do what it is telling you to do; take a leap of faith and just go with it. I wish there was a safer and easier way to get over not trusting the voice, but there isn’t. We just have to step out on faith and see what happens. And we all have at least one time we did that and we were really happy we did. So like Nike says, “Just DO it!”

The good news is the more we follow that inner voice the louder it becomes and the easier it is to follow. It takes practice and a lot of faith. But what’s the alternative. Do you want to keep putting yourself in bad situations and wasting your time and energy? I don’t think so. So let’s start trusting that inner voice. Let’s start winning in life already. Enough is enough.

You are loved,


Prophetic Blog: Your Prayers Are Answered

God told me, “[tweetthis]You are already the POSSESSOR of everything you’ve prayed for.”[/tweetthis]

Daughters and Sons of Zion, everything you have been praying for has been giving to you. It’s already yours. (Clarifier: Everything you’ve been praying for that is in alignment with God’s nature and plans for you has been answered.)

Let me tell you why God had to tell me this today.

I’ve been very good this year about identifying my desires and getting clear on my goals. I went to a Tony Robbins seminar and learned about the power of clarity and I committed myself this year to doing exactly that. I learned about how ineffective it is for us to always think about what we DON’T want in our lives instead of what we DO want in our lives. I learned and got it deep down in my heart that if I didn’t have clarity I will be stuck in the same place at the end of the year; and that is my WORST nightmare. I dread the idea of never changing and becoming better—of living mediocre and status quo.

So I got really clear—and got stuck there. I got stuck just being really clear. I didn’t take that next step. I did it partially but not in a way that would bring results. I didn’t realize I hadn’t taken the next step until tonight when God spoke the statement in the beginning of this blog to me. He told me I hadn’t seen myself with having the things I’ve prayed for. My prayers were all still hanging out in the waiting room of desire. I hadn’t made them mine yet. What I was doing was sharing those goals with the Lord over and over. It’s like I’ve been on repeat with Him, “God I want this to happen, God I want to have this, God I want this person to do such and such,” etc.  But never said okay it’s mine, never saw it as mine. So He challenged me to do what I’m about to share with you.

We possess our possession by doing the following:

#1 Write down all the things you’ve prayed for this year.

#2 Use your imagination to see yourself having those things. I love doing this! Take out your journal—paper or electronic—and write out the vision of yourself having those things. For example, if you’ve been asking God to increase your finances—see yourself going to the bank and checking your account and see the balance that you prayed for; or getting a job that pays more; or starting a business that gets high dollar contracts—you get what I mean.

#3 After you’ve done those things—move into thanksgiving. The natural response after you’ve received something from someone is to thank them, right? So it will be natural for you once you see yourself with your answered prayer to begin praising and thanking God. Mark 11:24 Isn’t this perfect, since Thanksgiving is in November! God is so smart and knows how to get us in alignment with the seasons. I love that about Him.J

Beloved you lack no good thing.

P.S. The month of November on all my social media platforms we will be talking about trusting your inner voice, your gut, your intuition, your inner Holy Spirit, etc. It’s going to be good. Make sure you follow me so you don’t miss any of it. We will be ending this year in VICTORY!




Marry Your Best Friend

I understood for the first time this weekend fully what people mean when they say marry your best friend. I attended the wedding of one of my closest friends and it was so beautiful. I watched as they recited their vows to each other and their words were full of passion and truth. The love that exuded from those vows was palatable. I listened as the pastor explained what the covenant of marriage really stands for and the gravity of serving another human being. The weight of the whole thing really hit me.

I’ve always honored to covenant of marriage—it’s always been something really serious to me and never taken lightly. I know that the decision of who to marry alters the course of your life forever. Choosing wrong will literally ruin your life. I’ve witnessed it many times in my own family and friends—how that one wrong decision permanently damages a person sense of worth and value. God forbid children are involved—it becomes a wretched cycle of pain and hurt. So I HONOR marriage and I know how important it is to choose rightly.

Jesus told us in the Bible that there is no greater love than to lay down your life for a friend. Then in Ephesians, the Bible tells us that a man is to love his wife the way Christ loved the Church and laid down His life for her. Then in Proverbs the Bible states that a friend loves at all times. Are you following the logic? Friendship is the foundation of marriage—it’s the only thing that will sustain and maintain a healthy marriage. Marriage is hard, as many married people most married for over 20 years stated at the wedding this weekend. I[tweetthis]t’s hard with the RIGHT person—and it fails with the WRONG person. [/tweetthis]But if you are friends—best of friends—you will make it.

Think about the person you enjoy the most spending time with—I guarantee you that you think about laughing with that person. You think about having fun with that person, you think about sharing your heart and them understanding the REAL you, you think about telling them all of your secrets trusting that they won’t judge you. That’s what friendship is—God called Abraham His friend because He didn’t hide anything from him. God was transparent with Abraham and vice versa. Jesus told the disciples that He called them friends because He shared with them the most precious thing He owned—His Father’s secrets. So tell me is the person you are with or praying for this kind of man? Is the one you may be planning to marry this kind of friend? Does your heart leap for joy when he texts or calls you? Are you excited to see him every time? Is he the first person you think about when something goes right? Do you call him first when life throws you a curveball? Have you even been with him long enough to answer these questions? If your answer is no—let that relationship go or take time to develop that friendship. If your answer is yes—I applaud and congratulate you on building a strong foundation for your future.

Not everyone can be your best friend—the term itself suggest that out of all of your friends this person is above all. This is my prayer, that God will bring me a man who I never get tired of being around, a man who makes me laugh, who challenges me to grow not because he’s saying it but because I’m motivated by looking at his life, a man who is never content with status-quo but is always reaching for the best in life, a man who knows that God is a good God and there is evidence in his life of that truth, a man who I can dance all night with, a friend who loves at all times. I will not build a relationship on desperation, infatuation, lust or ever settle for less than that. I know God is up to the task—you will witness His goodness in my life.

I want God to use my life to show His daughters that if they trust Him, He will show them that their standards are not too high, that their desires are not bothersome, their deep down wishes have been heard by Him, and that He is able to fill their heart with absolute joy and gladness.

You are loved,


2 Ways to Attract the Right Man in Your Life

First of all, I want to applaud you for your optimism for reading this post. Your heart is still hopeful even though I’m sure you’ve had some real heartbreaks. You are a strong woman and you STILL BELIEVE IN LOVE! Kudos to you my beautiful sister. I am right there with you.

So let’s get to it, how exactly do we attract the right man in our lives?

#1: You need to define exactly who the right man is. If that means writing a list—then do it. The list isn’t for God it’s for you. When you define that right man—his attributes, character, passions, and relationship with God—it makes it easier to weed out when the counterfeit comes. Which incidentally also means you will RECOGNIZE him when he arrives. In Habakkuk 2:3 God tells us to write the vision and make it PLAIN. So define it. I’ve written mine down but it was hard to articulate initially and I just had to record my conversation with God on my phone and then I could write it down.

#2: Become the person who compliments—NOT COMPLETE—the kind of man that list describes. We attract who we are. If you are broken you will attract brokenness. If you don’t love yourself, you will attract a person who doesn’t love themselves. So if you want a man who is confident and strong—YOU have to become confident and strong.

Do an inventory of your inner self right now; ask yourself the hard questions about how well you love you, how healthy is your relationship with God, how is your self-talk, how well do you value yourself, how good are you at leading yourself? If your answers scare you, do yourself a favor and stay out of any relationship until the answers are not scary anymore. You don’t want to be scary on the inside because you will attract scary on the outside. Do you really want a man who is insecure, riddled with low self-esteem, has a plutonic relationship with God, and can’t even lead himself? NOPE, you don’t.

SO beautiful, hopeful and optimistic queen—focus on loving yourself so much so that it will be EASY to eliminate anyone that comes along who doesn’t LOVE YOU the way YOU LOVE YOU.

P.S. you also don’t want anyone who loves you more than you love yourself. He will think he’s your savior and there’s only one Savior, Jesus. Because more often than not, it’s not that he loves you more it’s that he needs you to be something for him—so when he’s showering you with compliments it’s because he desperately needs your response to be feed something in him he’s not found in himself. And you will misinterpret that as love because you haven’t learned what real love is, because you haven’t taken the time to really love yourself.

Don’t ever forget that you are beautiful and you deserve a love that is tailor-made for you. You don’t need to look at anyone else’s love story and wish that were you. There’s a love story that’s been written in heaven for you; and if you trust God He will show you that He knows how to make your heart leap for joy.

Don’t settle,


Free Yourself from the Wrong Friendships

This whole month of September we’ve been talking about NOT SETTLING. Go check out my Facebook page at I have daily words of encouragement and inspiration to keep you motivated so that you don’t settle. I love the thought of people living the life they’ve always dreamed of. I love thinking about a brilliant beautiful person fulfilling their dreams and passions living the good life. Please let that be you. I’m definitely going to let it be me.J

Also, know that I’m writing from my own daily experiences with not settling. I am not preaching to you or talking AT you. I am speaking from my personal ongoing journey to living the life of my dreams. I am sharing the lessons I’m learning along the way. Most of those lessons I’m learning the hard way.

Recently, I’ve had to learn a lesson about settling when it comes to friendships. This was a hard one because it’s takes a very long time for me to let anyone close to me because I love very intensely, whether it’s a friend or a partner. I literally have never had more than 4 real friends around me at one time. Don’t get me wrong I have a lot of acquaintances, some of which may consider me their friends but there’s a difference between me being friendly and you being my friend.

The lesson I’ve learned when it comes to friendships is this: A close/best friend is a person with whom you should share a similar non-negotiable belief of the nature of God.

Here’s what I mean. If you have a friend who believes that God makes you sick to teach you a lesson and you believe God will never ever do that because He’s a good God; that friendship will break your heart eventually. I believe that God is a good God all the time, not because it’s some Christian cliché but because that truth brought me through the hardest season of my life.  I will never believe that God will put something/someone in my life that will be less than what I would’ve chosen for myself. I will never believe that God is sometimes good and sometimes bad—and I don’t believe this something complicated either. The scriptures say every GOOD AND PERFECT gift comes from Him. He is good ALWAYS.

We make choices and decisions in our life, as Christians, based upon who we believe God to be. If we think He’s got this weird hard-to-understand path for our lives that is really painful but in some weird way is bringing Him pleasure to see us suffer and that is somehow noble and virtuous—we will let satan sell us all kinds of nonsense and we will just take it. We will settle. We will not want to make it seem like we’re resisting God, I mean after all His thoughts and ways are higher than ours right? Who can really understand Him anyway? ENHH!! WRONG!!!

The people you hang out with the most—those close/best friends of yours—influence the outcome of your life in a major way. If you do not agree with how they see the world—if it is fundamentally different from how you see the world and understand God; and not just different but you disagree—let those friends go. [tweetthis display_mode=”button_link”]Free up your circle—you need people who vibe on the same frequency as you.[/tweetthis]Free up your circle—you need people who vibe on the same frequency as you. You need those who are in harmony with you. Life is too short to be trying to pull an unwilling person in a direction opposite of where they’re going. Trust God with that (after all, they may be thinking the same thing about you J)

Don’t settle for friendships just so you can say you have a friend. Vibing (pretty sure I made this word up lol) alone and moving in the right direction is way better than staying stuck because you’re trying to be a friend. Trust me, it’s not worth it. Let them go find their tribe—and go find yours.


You are loved deeply,


You Deserve More

Many people settle for less than they deserve simply because they believe they deserve less. I know that’s a bit of mind bender but read it again slowly. You have right now exactly the life you think you deserve. This includes all the headaches, heartaches, triumphs and victories that are in your life.

If you really believed you deserved more, you would’ve made different choices.

Your life right now is the sum total of all the decisions you have made in the past.

Here is one reason you think you deserve less:

You don’t really know who you are. You are deceived about your TRUE identity—the real you is still hidden. For example, if an eagle is raised by chickens it lives it’s life as a chicken and will never use it’s wings to leave the ground because it has taken on a false identity. That is true for you as well. This should tell you that you need to be careful who you have hanging around you because they are defining your limits—according to their own limits. A chicken has absolutely no knowledge/experience of flying like an eagle so it will, in innocent ignorance completely neglect the ability of flight in the eagle.

There may be people around you right now that cannot see the real you, not because they’re mean or wicked, but simply because they are ignorant of your amazing abilities because they have no experience in the area of your strengths. They can’t help you build what is not even on their radar.

We settle for less when we let other people limits become our own limits. Or we let other people’s failure become our own. Like, when a woman believes that she cannot have children because her best friend, sister, or coworker who is very close to her had problems conceiving—so she takes that on and wears their failures as her own.

Beautiful queen I urge you to take off the limitations, failures, and ignorance of those that are around you. You cannot move forward and receive everything that God has for you if you are weighed down by any of those things. You deserve more and you will only get more when YOU decide to.

You are loved,