Do this One Thing When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed


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So we all know that no one is exempt from feeling overwhelmed. Some of us are chronic sufferers of this and can’t seem to find our way out of it. I know for me I deal with this a lot because I tend to be a bit of a control freak. I want to make all the right decisions right now so that I make sure I only have good things happen in the future. I try to think of all the different ways my decisions can effect my life and I try to find the ONE perfect decision that will make my life problem free! Can you relate?

I know I’m not the only one. That is exactly why we get overwhelmed. We get too busy on the inside trying to avoid problems, pain, hurt, disappointment and whatever else we deem to be negative. We overthink everything, we overanalyze EVERYTHING! No wonder we get tired and start feeling overwhelmed.

The ONE thing we need to do when we get overwhelmed is to GO BACK TO THE BASICS. Matthew 6:33 says seek ye first the kingdom of God and all of these things will be added unto you. #1 God is basically saying “drop everything and look at Me”. Literally–He’s erasing your entire t0-do list and writing His name at the top! So how do we do that practically? You do all the things you were doing when you first met Him and fell in love. Read your Bible, sing to God, talk to Him in prayer–simplify! The amazing thing is that the reason you’re overwhelmed is because you’ve decided that you were God and started doing His job for Him by trying to run your own life. What Matthew 6:33 is saying to you is stop doing God’s job–let Him be God and stay in your lane!

That’s it. Love you.

In process,


Alone for the Holidays?

This time of year is either an extremely joyful time or it’s extremely depressing time for you. If you have great family relationships or friends you are probably super excited to hang out with them and take some days off just kicking back and enjoying life. If you are someone who has damaged relationships with friends and family, this time of year is extremely sad and lonely. I want to help you.

My heart and motivation for everything I do is to tell people about how amazing and beautiful they are, especially women and share the freedom that we have in our relationship with God. That’s what I want to share with you today.

Whether you know God personally or not this is still going to apply to you. No one on Earth was made to be alone, that’s number 1.

#1 So ITS OKAY to want to be around people who love and affirm your existence on this planet. This world can be really jacked up and hard to live in. We need people around us—whether they are blood related or not—who are in our corner.

#2 If you do not have people like this in your corner—it’s time to start being YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER! Treat yourself, pamper yourself, take yourself out—I know that sounds super weird but loving yourself is the foundation of all your other relationships. I used to do this—and I still do—love on myself by treating myself to a shopping spree at the dollar store. I was super broke in those days and I hated that I couldn’t buy nice things but I decided not to let that hold me back so I would save 20 dollars and just go crazy in the dollar store. It was so much fun!

I love to read too so I would go on dates with Jesus and take a book to my favorite park and even to dinner by myself. HAHAHA I know you’re probably thinking “oh my goodness that sounds like a nightmare!” But it really wasn’t. I’m so thankful for those days because if I didn’t have them I would not be the strong amazing woman that I am today. And yes I said that, and yes I believe that and no I don’t think it’s arrogant. It took time to build this confidence.

So during this holiday season don’t spend time focusing on how lonely you are or how sad you are—focus on enjoying your own company. Focus on being thankful that you made it another year and you’re not in the hospital, in an asylum somewhere, or on the streets.

#3 You’ve heard it a thousand times—go help someone else who may be lonely or sad. It is a powerful experience to step outside of your amazing little world and go share that cheer with another human soul. Somebody needs what you have, even if all you have is a smile.

You rock,



How to Follow Your Inner Voice

This entire month of November we are going to be talking about our intuition on the Facebook page, Twitter, Instagram, in the Facebook group and on this blog.

Intuition is our inner voice. Intuition is our first reaction. Intuition is that gut feeling you get immediately in different life situations. We all have it. We all have experience either ignoring that inner voice or following it and letting it lead us. We know that every time we have ignored that inner voice we have gotten ourselves in trouble. So why do we keep ignoring it?

I shared in the Facebook group, Real Women/Real Conversations, about a recent situation in my life where I completely ignored my inner voice and ended up costing myself a lot of unnecessary headache. Failing to follow my inner voice cost me emotional, mental, and spiritual energy I could’ve used somewhere else. It even cost me financially, but God is faithful to redeem us from situations we get ourselves in when we ignore Him.

So as a Christian, that inner voice is the Holy Spirit. It is actually God leading and guiding you. The Bible says “and when you turn to the right hand, and when you turn to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way. Walk in it.” Isaiah 30:21 [tweetthis]God is actually with you every day in every moment trying to lead you to victory.[/tweetthis] He is actually talking to us and telling us which way to go to avoid trouble. So why don’t we follow Him?

#1 We don’t trust the voice we hear. We think it’s just us either being too positive or too negative. We think maybe it’s the voice of our parents or some other authority figure in our head. We think maybe it’s the pizza from the night before talking. We pretty much believe it’s everyone and everything else OTHER than God.

There’s only one way to fix that. You have to just trust the voice and do what it is telling you to do; take a leap of faith and just go with it. I wish there was a safer and easier way to get over not trusting the voice, but there isn’t. We just have to step out on faith and see what happens. And we all have at least one time we did that and we were really happy we did. So like Nike says, “Just DO it!”

The good news is the more we follow that inner voice the louder it becomes and the easier it is to follow. It takes practice and a lot of faith. But what’s the alternative. Do you want to keep putting yourself in bad situations and wasting your time and energy? I don’t think so. So let’s start trusting that inner voice. Let’s start winning in life already. Enough is enough.

You are loved,


Free Yourself from the Wrong Friendships

This whole month of September we’ve been talking about NOT SETTLING. Go check out my Facebook page at I have daily words of encouragement and inspiration to keep you motivated so that you don’t settle. I love the thought of people living the life they’ve always dreamed of. I love thinking about a brilliant beautiful person fulfilling their dreams and passions living the good life. Please let that be you. I’m definitely going to let it be me.J

Also, know that I’m writing from my own daily experiences with not settling. I am not preaching to you or talking AT you. I am speaking from my personal ongoing journey to living the life of my dreams. I am sharing the lessons I’m learning along the way. Most of those lessons I’m learning the hard way.

Recently, I’ve had to learn a lesson about settling when it comes to friendships. This was a hard one because it’s takes a very long time for me to let anyone close to me because I love very intensely, whether it’s a friend or a partner. I literally have never had more than 4 real friends around me at one time. Don’t get me wrong I have a lot of acquaintances, some of which may consider me their friends but there’s a difference between me being friendly and you being my friend.

The lesson I’ve learned when it comes to friendships is this: A close/best friend is a person with whom you should share a similar non-negotiable belief of the nature of God.

Here’s what I mean. If you have a friend who believes that God makes you sick to teach you a lesson and you believe God will never ever do that because He’s a good God; that friendship will break your heart eventually. I believe that God is a good God all the time, not because it’s some Christian cliché but because that truth brought me through the hardest season of my life.  I will never believe that God will put something/someone in my life that will be less than what I would’ve chosen for myself. I will never believe that God is sometimes good and sometimes bad—and I don’t believe this something complicated either. The scriptures say every GOOD AND PERFECT gift comes from Him. He is good ALWAYS.

We make choices and decisions in our life, as Christians, based upon who we believe God to be. If we think He’s got this weird hard-to-understand path for our lives that is really painful but in some weird way is bringing Him pleasure to see us suffer and that is somehow noble and virtuous—we will let satan sell us all kinds of nonsense and we will just take it. We will settle. We will not want to make it seem like we’re resisting God, I mean after all His thoughts and ways are higher than ours right? Who can really understand Him anyway? ENHH!! WRONG!!!

The people you hang out with the most—those close/best friends of yours—influence the outcome of your life in a major way. If you do not agree with how they see the world—if it is fundamentally different from how you see the world and understand God; and not just different but you disagree—let those friends go. [tweetthis display_mode=”button_link”]Free up your circle—you need people who vibe on the same frequency as you.[/tweetthis]Free up your circle—you need people who vibe on the same frequency as you. You need those who are in harmony with you. Life is too short to be trying to pull an unwilling person in a direction opposite of where they’re going. Trust God with that (after all, they may be thinking the same thing about you J)

Don’t settle for friendships just so you can say you have a friend. Vibing (pretty sure I made this word up lol) alone and moving in the right direction is way better than staying stuck because you’re trying to be a friend. Trust me, it’s not worth it. Let them go find their tribe—and go find yours.


You are loved deeply,


You Deserve More

Many people settle for less than they deserve simply because they believe they deserve less. I know that’s a bit of mind bender but read it again slowly. You have right now exactly the life you think you deserve. This includes all the headaches, heartaches, triumphs and victories that are in your life.

If you really believed you deserved more, you would’ve made different choices.

Your life right now is the sum total of all the decisions you have made in the past.

Here is one reason you think you deserve less:

You don’t really know who you are. You are deceived about your TRUE identity—the real you is still hidden. For example, if an eagle is raised by chickens it lives it’s life as a chicken and will never use it’s wings to leave the ground because it has taken on a false identity. That is true for you as well. This should tell you that you need to be careful who you have hanging around you because they are defining your limits—according to their own limits. A chicken has absolutely no knowledge/experience of flying like an eagle so it will, in innocent ignorance completely neglect the ability of flight in the eagle.

There may be people around you right now that cannot see the real you, not because they’re mean or wicked, but simply because they are ignorant of your amazing abilities because they have no experience in the area of your strengths. They can’t help you build what is not even on their radar.

We settle for less when we let other people limits become our own limits. Or we let other people’s failure become our own. Like, when a woman believes that she cannot have children because her best friend, sister, or coworker who is very close to her had problems conceiving—so she takes that on and wears their failures as her own.

Beautiful queen I urge you to take off the limitations, failures, and ignorance of those that are around you. You cannot move forward and receive everything that God has for you if you are weighed down by any of those things. You deserve more and you will only get more when YOU decide to.

You are loved,


What Happens When Your Freedom Makes Me Uncomfortable?

So for my unbelieving readers, those who do not believe in Jesus as the King of this world, the question from two posts ago is going to be answered.

The question was what happens when your freedom hurts another person, what if you being free actually brings another person into bondage? Was our previous definition of freedom only true if you live in a world all by yourself?

Well, if you read the previous post the truth has already been given away, but I’m going to break it down further.

The freedom of THE royal Family, the one that Jesus is the reigning Prince is a kingdom that is run on justice, lovingkindness and righteousness (doing what’s right in all loving God’s eyes). Your freedom becomes a non-freedom when it is governed by selfishness. That’s pretty blunt but it is true.

We don’t live in a world where there are no other people around, if we all lived that previous definition of freedom based on selfishness we would eventually run into having to choose our self-interest over the best interest of another person. I’m sure you’ve been there; everyone has been there. It happens when we want to do our own thing but somebody needs us, it might be our children, friends or neighbors, and we have to choose between what we want and what they may want or need. Most often than not, if we don’t have a real relationship with God through Jesus we’ll choose ourselves first.

In Liberia, where I was born, there is a saying that ‘among my mother’s children I love myself the best.’ Typical egoistical societal epithets of our true natures.  If this is the basis of your life and freedom, it’s not really freedom. And if we live in a world where that is all our type of freedom we will all be living hell on Earth.

Sad thing is that most of our society is actually living a wrong perception of freedom based on selfishness.

Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about unless you accept Jesus invitation to become part of His family.

If you have not been born again and you want to, I want you to call this number 719-635-11111, M-F. This is a prayer line, they will pray with you and send you free materials on your new life as royalty!


Starting a revolution beginning with you!


How Free Are You?

That may appear to be a very easy question to answer but the truth is you really DON’T know the answer to that question. You really do not know how free you are.

If you were to attempt to answer the question the first thing you would do is compare yourself to others. Here’s what you might say to answer that question:

“I’m American, so I’m freer than most of the world, I’m a not in prison so I’m free, I’m not addicted to drugs or alcohol so I’m free, I do whatever I want to do so I’m free, I live my life the way I want to so I’m free” and so on…

So how free are you? Are you even free? What does being free even mean?

Let me ask you a question, in a country where there are kings and queens, who is freer the king’s family or the people he rules?

The king’s family of course, but why? Because they have rule and control over their environment, they dominate their surroundings, they make the rules. There is no one higher than them, they are free to do whatever they want to.

I’ve just put into words what you think about when you think about being free—you think about nobody ruling over you and no one controlling your circumstance but you. Am I right?

If you are a Christian reading this you may be conflicted right now because you might be thinking, ‘I know I’m free in God but He rules and dominates my circumstances and environment. He is higher than me.’ Don’t fret, calm down, I’ll explain in next week’s post.

Sorry to leave you hanging, but chew on that for a week and talk to God about it. If that is real freedom, and you know it is because when no one is running your life, but you, you feel absolutely free. So how can God say we are free? Write your answers in the comments—I’m excited to see what God shares with you.

If you are not a Christian reading this you are not conflicted at all, this makes total sense to you. Being free means I’m running things in my life, it means I do what I want to do, when I want to do it, and how I want to do it. I have a question for you, what happens when your freedom hurts another person or causes another person to not feel or be free? Is that still freedom? Is that definition of freedom only true in a vacuum? The answer is no, but why?

So how free are you?


Starting a revolution beginning with you!


Your Independence is Killing You!

Did you know that being a child of God is not synonymous with being an adult of God? Many people think that when you become born again that your goal is to grow up and live right in your own ability. It is like believing Jesus is just the door to enter into a way of life where you are expected to know and do all the right things at all the right times.

Here’s the truth:

You are not capable of living life all by yourself and by your own power. The reality is, without God, you are weak and basically disabled mentally and emotionally. You are living by a moral code that no longer has any standards these days. There’s no measuring line to tell you when you’ve gone too far or if you are within the boundaries. Anything INDEPENDENT from God is dying a slow painful death—I know that’s pretty intense but it’s true. If He is the source of all life, and He is, how can living disconnected from Him be anything but a slow death? It can’t. Your independence from Him is literally killing you!

In order to live for God, you have to live completely DEPENDENT on Him. You have to trust Him for literally EVERYTHING in your life—this is what He wants. He knows that we can’t do life without Him, He created us to NOT live without Him, so He’s not surprise that we desperately need Him.

Go ahead and let go of all those beliefs that you thought the independent woman was the way to go. How’s that working out for you? I understand that there are positives to not being dependent upon a man, but don’t take it too far and think that means God as well. The saying that ‘God helps those who helps themselves’ is a LIE! God helps those who CAN’T help themselves.


Starting a revolution, starting with you.


God Wants You Free!

No Crowd

We’ve all tasted some form of freedom in our lives. I bet you can think about that time right now of that moment when you felt absolute freedom. I haven’t defined freedom yet but we all have a sense of it in our souls. We were built for freedom and it’s in our DNA! God is all about liberty. In Galatians 5:1, the Bible says it was FOR freedom that Christ SET US FREE. It also says in 2 Corinthians 3:17, that where the Spirit of the Lord IS there freedom. God and Freedom cannot be separated from each other. You know what that means? It means where God is not there is NOT freedom.

That means when we are living against the will of God no matter what we may be feeling like, we are NOT free. We are in BONDAGE. God wants you free! All of what He tells us to do and how we tells us to live is so that we may be free. He didn’t make you to live according to the ways of this world, because the world is in darkness. They are stumbling around in chains. They are prisoners of the devil. That devil has puppet strings attached to people who do not know God. The puppet strings are not visible, and obvious, to those who are spiritually blind. Spiritually blind people can be believers and non-believers. A believer who is not renewing their mind, Romans 12:1-2, according to the Word of God will be deceived as well.

We look up to those people who have money, fame and influence and we think they are absolutely free. They can do WHATEVER they want, with WHOEVER they want, WHENEVER they want. That’s what we deeply believe to be freedom. We believe freedom is a life without restraints, nobody telling us what to do, how to do it, and with who to do it with. We’re RIGHT! That is real freedom. The spiritually blind person is NOT FREE. The devil is running their lives and telling them what to do. How are you living? Who’s running your life, Jesus or the devil? Following the world and listening to your own heart that is not submitted and changed by the Word of God makes you a prisoner every time.

If you as a believer is not engaging Jesus in the Word of God, YOU ARE NOT LIVING FREE! Jesus said that the Words He spoke were Spirit and life. We already said that where the Spirit of the Lord is there is freedom. Freedom is in the Word of God. Read it for your own safety, read it to get free!

God wants you to live free. He wants your heart to not be broken, He wants your soul to be whole, He wants your smile to be real and genuine. He doesn’t want you coping with your problems or lusting after the world and it’s counterfeit freedom. We have the real deal in Jesus!


Be encouraged beloved!



Loving YOUrself!

Hello Beloved,

There is a lesson that I’ve had to learn the hard way recently. There are many times that we will be in situations where people’s expectations, their views or beliefs about you mirror what you expect, view and believe about yourself. Sometimes that mirror isn’t always comforting or reassuring.

I tend to have a very high expectation of myself, one that I almost never reach up to, but I keep striving in that direction. I used to have that same expectation of other people around and learned quickly that people cannot meet those expectations. If they do, it’s because I have spent time with them coaching and mentoring them. It’s never automatic. It requires much grace, love and patience to coach and mentor people. We learn, I’ve learned, how to extend that grace and love and patience to everybody else but ourselves.

The scripture says that we are to forgive quickly, but how many times do we forgive OURSELVES quickly. We hold on to things, we wonder how we could’ve missed it, and constantly going back and replaying that mistake. Satan loves this, because he desires to see you down and out. He wants you to keep dwelling on your mistakes and thinking negatively about yourself because it is in that defeated state that you miss God’s plan for your life. It’s in that defeated state you end up making decisions that are detrimental to your destiny and the call on your life. You give up and give in. The enemy will make sure that there are people around you who would speak negative about you and hold things against you as well, people who will magnify your mistakes because he can’t afford to see you rise up to who God has called you.

I say this to you and to me, LET IT GO! God has not called you a failure, He does not magnify your mistakes, He’s not dwelling on what you did wrong. Remember that love keeps no record of wrongs, when you love yourself you will not keep a record of your wrongs. There is so much in you that God has put there–magnify those things. NO ONE and I mean NO ONE can call you anything other than what God has called you, and that includes YOU. Love yourself fiercely, forgive yourself quickly, increase your patience towards yourself. It’s worth it to have God’s eyes for you. You have to see yourself the way He sees you, because if that is not in the right focus you will not be able to see others the way He sees them either.

You are so loved, so forgiven, and swimming in an abundance of grace and favor! (speaking to myself as well) 🙂