Purpose Detox: The Magic of Your Inner Child

Hello lovely people!

I hope you’ve been joining me on Periscope for our 40 day Purpose Detox! It’s fire–I mean fiyah!

Being childlike is a prerequisite of following your dreams because children believe ANYTHING is possible. Their imaginations are absolutely amazing! Do you remember when you were a child how amazing your imagination was? Walt Disney said the saddest thing is that we all grow up.

Stop growing up lol…stop thinking you have to be this mature adult who has to have it all together before you can follow your dreams. Or that you have to logically and systematically plan out your every move before pursuing your purpose. Because you know what, what you’re actually planning is a way to make sure that you don’t fail but children aren’t afraid of failing. That’s the adult in you that has taught you that failure is an identity flaw when it actually is just a learning opportunity.

When a child believes they can fly and they tie their bed sheets around their neck and jump off the couch and fall they don’t think to give up they think of another way to jump! That’s what we have to do–we have to let failure open the possibility to another way to jump! I love that!!

Believe in the magic of your dreams. Believe that all things are possible.  Children do–and you used to. Don’t lose that child that’s on the inside of you. Even Jesus said we can’t come hang out with Him in His Kingdom if we are stuffy old people–we have to be like little children.

Go ahead tie on that bed sheet and jump!

Love y’all.

Purpose Detox: You Don’t Need Their Applause, Here’s Why

Hey there my powerful people!

It’s Day 10 of our Purpose Detox! Yes we made it! Lol We’re talking about people pleasing and needing approval to move into our purposes. A lot of us majored in college degrees to please our parents, to impress people and at the end of our college career realized we were no closer to feeling fulfilled. That’s people pleasing, that’s living up to people’s expectations. We gotta get free from that. But we’re so used to it, we learn when we are  children we should do things for the applause of people. When we say our ABC’s and they clap for us, or we dance or sing and they clap—so we grow up performing for the applause of other people, whether they  are parents, peers or lovers.

You do not need the applause from the stands to go and pursue your dream and fulfill your purpose in life. Because the truth is people will always applaud success no matter what kind of success it is. They will applaud you once you’ve made it–they may placate you now in the infant stages of you pursuing your dreams but when you succeed–and if you follow your purpose you will–they will clap for you. But if you’re waiting for them to clap now just forget it. Work hard first–find your purpose–pursue that and then let them applaud.

The only agreement you need is the one God gave you when He put you in your mother’s womb. He said YES to who you are before you even knew yourself. He’s been clapping and applauding you. He’s applauding you now as you read this because He sees your hunger and desire to be who He  made you to be. I’m applauding that in you as well!

Go be fabulous, stop waiting for the squad to join you. Do it alone, once you win, you’ll see them running up.

Love y’all!


Purpose Detox: The Reason Why You’re Busy and Still Unhappy

Hello Beautiful Ones,

So this morning was so funny on Periscope when we did our Day 9 of  the Purpose Detox. I woke up late, my tripod wouldn’t stay still, my computer died and so our song didn’t play and so on….that sounds like a terrible morning and start to Periscope right? I was tempted to think so and start the scope all over but I didn’t–I pushed past the paralysis of perfection and rocked out anyway! Here’s a free tidbit for you–stop waiting to do everything perfect before you pursue your dreams and your purpose.

So here’s four reasons you are busy and still unhappy. First let me explain what I mean by being busy: a long to do list just so you can feel important or accomplished but you really never get anything done and being tired at the end of the day with no real results–

You may being doing this because:

  1. You’re chasing the dollar dollar bills
  2. You’re trying to be social media famous
  3. You’re copying somebody else’s dream
  4. You’re living up to other people’s expectations

If you’re busy for any of those reasons STOP IT. We want things on our to-do list that are connected to our Purpose. Stop and ask yourself WHY you’re doing the things you’re doing. It may not be one of the reasons in my list–if you find more put it in the comments for me.

I love y’all!

Purpose Detox: It’s Not Impossible

Hey beautiful souls!

I hope you’ve been joining me on Periscope @ycoach for our 40 Purpose Detox!

Today we’re talking about the thought that our purpose is “too hard”, “too difficult”, “too much work”, “not in enough time” to fulfill our purposes. All of those thoughts boil down to us really thinking that it’s impossible to really do the thing that’s deep down in our hearts. It paralyzes us, because the world impossible basically means “don’t even try it!”

Now you know this is a detox so every thought in the previous paragraph is completely ridiculous. There is nothing that is impossible for God, which means nothing’s impossible for  you either. Why would God put a dream in your heart that you can never have? That would be so incredible sadistic and mean of Him. And He’s not a mean God.  He’s not out here dangling a carrot in your face to frustrate you.

If the dream is in your heart it’s because you and God are very much able to do it!

So it may have been easier to dream and sit back looking at something you can never have, but right now because I’ve just told you that you can have it–you now have to rise up and become the person who can handle that BIG dream. You and I can’t sit on the sidelines paralyzed anymore because if the dream really is possible that means we need to get to work.

No more copping out because it’s too hard. Roll up your sleeves and get to work!

Love you beautiful ones!

Dealing with the Spirit of Rejection

Happy Day Everyone!

Let’s get right into it. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who is hurt–like they have hurt all the way deep down on the inside of them and they just can’t seem to let it go? And you can tell that they’re hurt because you always feel like you’re either walking on egg shells or in a minefield–you never know when you’ll say the wrong thing to set them off. And it’s always your fault. Another way to tell is if you’re fine–like happy and in a good mood and after a conversation you start feeling rejected and hurt.

You either reading this as a person who is suffering with rejection or you’re in a relationship with someone who is suffering with rejection–either way I want to share something with you to help you. I also want to acknowledge that it is HARD to deal with rejection and we must know that it is a spiritual battle. There is a supernatural negative force working in your life when you are dealing with rejection. It’s not you and it’s definitely not coming from God.

So how do you deal with the spirit of  rejection? You recognize the truth–it’s a spiritual attack on your life or the life of the person you love. No one chooses to willingly walk around feeling rejected. Life has happened to them and satan has gotten in their ear with lies about who they are. He tells them no one loves them, everyone is against them, they must either hide from everyone or be super defensive to protect themselves. Beloved, the only thing that protects you is LOVE. Yup–it’s the answer for literally everything.

So if your loved one is behaving in a way that is hurtful and you know, from what I’ve said earlier they’re suffering from rejection–


Step 2; Next pray against that spirit in their life. Intercede for their souls!

Step 3: love them with words and actions. Speak ONLY what God says about them–if what you’re about to say does not reinforce their heavenly identity shut your mouth. And I’m not saying don’t speak truth if their words are hurtful–let them know but don’t call them as a person hurtful–separate the action from the person. Do your best to stay consistent in your actions–but don’t beat yourself up if mess up–this is a time of growth for you as well.

Finally, I’m speaking from experience. I am walking this out right now in my life and let me tell it is hard to not take it personally and not snap back with a smart remark, but it’s possible. Once I manage to do step one the rest of the steps are easier, because satan will come and start saying all kinds of nonsense to you about that person and how they don’t deserve to be in your life or worthy of love–don’t believe him. These are the people that need it the most!

I love you all–stay strong and focused!

Purpose Detox Series: Get Rid of Inadequacy

Hey there!

If you haven’t already joined us on our Purpose Detox journey on Periscope make sure you log in 7:30am MST–Monday to Friday!

Okay so let’s talk about exactly what inadequacy is. It literally means feeling of being insufficient for a purpose–wow! A lot of us know exactly why  God put us on this Earth but we feel like we’re not enough. We have a lot of help with this, we have people in our lives that are constantly putting us down, pointing out our faults and basically making us feel like we’re failing at life. BUT THAT’S A LIE. YOU ARE NOT FAILING AT LIFE.

The purpose, the divine design of who you are and why you are on this earth is amazing. Everything about you has been perfectly put together for the purpose God  called you to. There is no extra thing you need to go get that can make you more perfect for what God has called you to. Now that’s not to say you don’t need to mature in your strengths–but they’re already your strengths. God isn’t focusing on your weaknesses–He already made your weaknesses somebody else’s strength so we can compliment each other.

Everything that you absolutely love to do and would pay someone to let you do are the exact things you need to fulfill your purpose. They’re already your strengths. They’re already your desires. You are enough for exactly what God called you to do!

Love you fierce one!

Purpose Detox: Comparison Paralysis

Hey y’all!

Okay, so if you’ve been joining me on Periscope you know that we are on Day 4 of our Purpose Detox! Read the previous blog to find out what the process of the Purpose Detox. We are cleaning out our souls from all the negative thoughts and beliefs that is keeping us from living a life of purpose and of our dreams. We should be getting up out of bed every morning excited to live! If you’re not there make sure you join us on Periscope to do this thang!

Ok now, lets talk about Comparison Paralysis. Basically stop comparing yourself to everybody else, but not just yourself but your purpose. What we do is if God has put a desire in our heart, for example being an actor, we look at all the great actors and think “I could never do that like they do it, they’re just soo good,” or we God calls us to teach and we say, “but teachers are so boring I don’t want to be boring.” lol

Here’s the truth, if God was able to gave each of the billions of people that have lived and currently live on this Earth a unique fingerprint–He can certainly give each and every one of us a unique calling that looks like nobody else. Nobody else can do what God’s called you to like you can. This is what He always tells me, “No eye has seen and no ear has heard what I’ve called you to do.” Which means, I can’t look around me to find the blueprint of what God has called me to do–I can learn principles but I will only find that unique blueprint in God. So STOP COMPARING YOUR PURPOSE TO ANOTHER PERSON’S PURPOSE.

Something I didn’t mention in the post is that we often have “purpose-envy” we wish we were called to do something else. Stop that too! Trust me the happiest, most fulfilled place you can be is in the purpose God has called YOU to.

Love you beloved,

Go rock the World!

Purpose Detox

Hey there!

Are you looking around wondering why everybody else seems so happy and you’re just sitting there thinking what about me? It seems like everyone is getting it together but you’re stuck and bored. You’re just going to a job that you hate, you don’t really enjoy the relationships with your friends and family, and the highlight of your week is your day off. Been there done that!!

How do you get out of that cycle? You discover the reason you were born. It’s a discovery because it’s already IN YOU! Nobody has the key to it and has it locked up. It’s right up in that beautiful heart of yours.

Join me on Periscope at @ycoach and let’s detox from all the toxins in our souls so we can finally start living the life we were born to live. Living your purpose is that only thing that will rescue you from the hamster wheel you’re on right now. Time to get off and walk your path!

Love you beloved. Kisses!

How to Tell Him No!

Ladies, I know that this can sometimes be the hardest thing to do when we are attracted to a man. We feel like saying no will communicate to him that we aren’t really interested and then he’ll leave us and never talk to us again. We think that saying yes makes us more attractive and so because we want to be liked so bad that we say yes to everything.

We say yes to coming over late, we say yes to staying on the phone past our bed time, we say yes to watching movies that we hate, hanging out with his obnoxious friends and the list goes on.

Here’s the truth: [tweetthis]Saying YES to him many times means saying NO to God.[/tweetthis]

There really is no middle ground. The fact that you would rather say no but you say yes so he can like you should tell you that you are living for his approval more than God’s approval. Every time we give in to that peer pressure we are telling God that His opinion doesn’t really matter and we can run our own lives. We’re  basically giving God “the hand.”

So how do you say NO? Say YES to God. Say yes to God’s crazy amazing love for you. Say yes to God’s awesome plan for your life. And say yes to God’s opinion of you. He thinks you’re pretty amazing! Believe that beautiful queen!!!



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Alone for the Holidays?

This time of year is either an extremely joyful time or it’s extremely depressing time for you. If you have great family relationships or friends you are probably super excited to hang out with them and take some days off just kicking back and enjoying life. If you are someone who has damaged relationships with friends and family, this time of year is extremely sad and lonely. I want to help you.

My heart and motivation for everything I do is to tell people about how amazing and beautiful they are, especially women and share the freedom that we have in our relationship with God. That’s what I want to share with you today.

Whether you know God personally or not this is still going to apply to you. No one on Earth was made to be alone, that’s number 1.

#1 So ITS OKAY to want to be around people who love and affirm your existence on this planet. This world can be really jacked up and hard to live in. We need people around us—whether they are blood related or not—who are in our corner.

#2 If you do not have people like this in your corner—it’s time to start being YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER! Treat yourself, pamper yourself, take yourself out—I know that sounds super weird but loving yourself is the foundation of all your other relationships. I used to do this—and I still do—love on myself by treating myself to a shopping spree at the dollar store. I was super broke in those days and I hated that I couldn’t buy nice things but I decided not to let that hold me back so I would save 20 dollars and just go crazy in the dollar store. It was so much fun!

I love to read too so I would go on dates with Jesus and take a book to my favorite park and even to dinner by myself. HAHAHA I know you’re probably thinking “oh my goodness that sounds like a nightmare!” But it really wasn’t. I’m so thankful for those days because if I didn’t have them I would not be the strong amazing woman that I am today. And yes I said that, and yes I believe that and no I don’t think it’s arrogant. It took time to build this confidence.

So during this holiday season don’t spend time focusing on how lonely you are or how sad you are—focus on enjoying your own company. Focus on being thankful that you made it another year and you’re not in the hospital, in an asylum somewhere, or on the streets.

#3 You’ve heard it a thousand times—go help someone else who may be lonely or sad. It is a powerful experience to step outside of your amazing little world and go share that cheer with another human soul. Somebody needs what you have, even if all you have is a smile.

You rock,